Time has flown by since Patrick and I said “I do” in front of our family and friends 6 months ago in Gloucester, Virginia. Our wedding was everything we had ever dreamed of and so much more and we will fondly look back on that day for the rest of our lives. To celebrate 6 months of being husband and wife, I thought I would round up 6 things I’ve learned in our first 6 months of marriage.
- My husband is the best. He really is! He’s my other half, partner, and best friend. He’s the extrovert to my introvert and pushes me to be a better person every single day. I tell him almost daily how lucky I am to get to spend the rest of my life loving a man like him.
- Invest in your honeymoon. I never realized the importance of a honeymoon until we went on ours. After all, this is your first time vacationing as husband and wife and it feels pretty darn special and different than any other trip you’ve ever taken. We are so thankful to have gone on our dream trip to Italy for 10 days following our wedding. The quality time we spent just the two of us was invaluable. And the wine/cheese/pasta was pretty good too!
- It’s hard to get used to calling each other “husband” and “wife”. I referred to Patrick as my “boyfriend” for over 7 years and “fiance” for 17 months so changing the title yet again to “husband” took a lot of getting used to. However, now that it’s fully ingrained in my vocabulary I can’t get enough of saying it. I still feel like I have to pinch myself to make sure it’s all real.
- It’s also hard to call my in-laws “Mom” and “Dad”. This one is still something I’m working on. Growing up in Virginia, it was a sign of respect to call all adults “Mr. and Mrs. Last Name”, so my in-laws were always Mr. and Mrs. Marlow. I know it seems silly, but I’ve been calling them Mr. and Mrs. Marlow for 8.5 years and it’s really really hard to cold turkey start calling them Mom and Dad. And, because of how I was raised, even to this day I could never address them by their first names. They have always been like parents to me, so for now I’ve started calling them “Mama and Papa Marlow” and that’s been working pretty well!
- Life is better together. Patrick and I have been together over 1/3 of our lives. We’ve grown up together and loved each other so well over the years. From high school, to college, to post-grad, to our first jobs, to newlyweds, we have been each other’s biggest cheerleaders. Life is simply better together and we couldn’t imagine it any other way.
- It’s the little things that make our marriage special. The number one question you get asked after your big day is “How is married life?”. That’s a hard question, because there are so many little things that define married life for us. Married life is falling asleep snuggled up on the couch with our puppy. Married life is coming home to a big dinner and a glass of wine after working until 10pm. Married life is fussing over what temperature to set the thermostat. Married life is spontaneous adventures to new places. Married life is talking about our future hopes and dreams for our family. Those are the little things that define our marriage and make it so special.