It still doesn’t feel real to be typing these words but… WE’RE PREGNANT!!! Patrick and I are overjoyed to announce that we are expecting our first baby in September 2021! We are both so excited for this next chapter in our lives and also know that we have soooo much to learn. We’ve always known we wanted to have children and after many long discussions and planning for our future, the timing finally felt right!
We have been overwhelmed with love since announcing to our friends and family (and now the social media world, too!) and I wanted to do a blog post covering off on all of the frequently asked pregnancy questions we’ve gotten so far.
How/when did you find out?
I took my first test on the afternoon of December 20, 2020 and I thought it was negative. I knew I was testing potentially too early, so I didn’t think much of it either way. We were staying with my in-laws for the holidays so I stuffed the test into my makeup bag so nobody would find it and tried to forget about it. Later that night, I woke up around midnight to use the bathroom and pulled the test out of my makeup bag just to make sure… and to my surprise I saw the faintest second line! I decided not to wake up Patrick or tell him yet because it was SUPER faint and didn’t want to get him excited so I decided to wait another 24 hours to test again to be sure.
On December 21, 2020 I tried to stay busy with work all day and then we went out on my in-laws boat that evening to stargaze (it was the night of the “Christmas Star” where Jupiter and Saturn appeared closer to the earth and made that glowy looking star). I told myself when we got back to the house I would let myself take another test so I could know for sure. Sure enough, that evening the test was VERY positive. I even confirmed with the Clearblue digital test so I could see the words “pregnant” spelled out! I couldn’t have been happier! We later learned that the day we found out I was 3 weeks and 5 days along.
How did you tell Patrick?
It really wasn’t anything super special! As soon as I got the positive test on the night of the 21st after the boat ride, I came out of the bathroom and met Patrick in the bedroom we were staying in and we were supposed to be getting ready for dinner with Patrick’s parents. I casually asked Patrick if he wanted to go on a walk just the two of us after dinner and he quickly shot me down because there was Monday Night Football and he HAD to watch the Steelers vs. Bengals game. I asked again with a little more persistence saying, “Come on, please? I’d love to get a little alone time after dinner.” Then he immediately was suspicious and asked if I had something I needed to tell him so I pulled out the pregnancy test and said “Well… we’re pregnant!” He picked me up and twirled me around the room and kissed me and the only words he could get out were “Really? Are you sure? Are you serious? I never knew how I would feel in this moment but I’m just so happy!!” Although we were staying with Patrick’s parents we decided to keep the news to ourselves for a little and just let it soak in that we were going to be parents!
How did you tell your families?
The day after we found out, Patrick’s parents were SO excited to tell me that they were preparing my very favorite dinner for Christmas Eve (bless them): raw tuna. I LOVE tuna sashimi and I especially love it the way Patrick’s parents prepare it. They always spoil me with it when we come to visit! However, I’m sure many of you know that 1. raw anything is a BIG no-no during pregnancy and 2. Tuna is an “off-limits” fish during pregnancy. I panicked. I didn’t know how to avoid eating my favorite meal in the world without coming off as super rude! They were for sure going to know something was up. So we decided we had to tell them before they headed to the fish market to secure the tuna. So we surprised them that evening by giving them an infant life vest as an early Christmas gift! Since they boat daily and live in the keys, it was a super practical gift and a cute way to share the news! 🙂
As for my family, we were SO happy that we were able to tell my little sister in-person only a week later when she came to visit us for New Years. Seeing the look on her face was priceless! We made her swear not to tell a soul because just 2 weeks later we were supposed to go on a ski trip with my parents and were going to tell them in-person then! But then… Patrick got COVID (more on that later) and our ski trip was obviously cancelled. I knew I couldn’t keep the secret from my parents much longer so we ended up telling them over FaceTime. I bought them a Christmas ornament that said “Grandpa and Grandpa Est. 2021” and held it up to the camera and they were SO happy! I’m still pretty sad that I couldn’t share that news in person, but I guess that’s the pandemic world we live in right now. We also told my big sister and her fiancé over Facetime!
What was the hardest part of the first trimester?
As I mentioned above, Patrick got COVID when I was 6 weeks pregnant. My OB just days earlier had really freaked me out about catching COVID while pregnant… saying things like “If you were to spike a fever, it could lead to developmental/spinal defects and increase your miscarriage risk” and “Pregnant woman are at an increased risk for blood clots if they get COVID and are much more likely to be hospitalized”. I had been relatively careful about COVID up until this point (always wearing a mask, following guidelines, etc.) but we had loosened up on some things and had hung-out with some friends at our house indoors. So Patrick ended up catching COVID from a friend of ours (he felt 100% healthy when we saw him and didn’t start developing symptoms until the next day before testing positive). Miraculously, even though we both spent time with this friend, Patrick tested positive and I tested negative. So Patrick and I quarantined separately for 14 days. That was HARD. Being newly pregnant and in complete isolation for 14 days is not ideal. Patrick thankfully only had mild symptoms and I never tested positive (even after multiple tests).
The other hard part was how exhausted I was. Some days I literally felt like I couldn’t get off the couch. I would sleep and sleep and sleep and still feel completely wiped. Growing a human is a lot of work!
When is the due date?
September 2nd, 2021! I keep saying it would be pretty funny if I went into labor on Labor Day! At the time of writing this I’m almost 14 weeks!
Are y’all finding out the gender?
We sure are! In fact, we already know the gender 🙂 We’ll be sharing that soon!
Have you had any food cravings or aversions?
Sugar and carbs!!!! Give me all the bagels and cookies! Thankfully haven’t had too many aversions but the thought of a salad has been 0% appealing and I normally LOVE coffee but gave it up when I got pregnant and haven’t craved it at all since!
What made you feel ready for kids?
HA. Is anyone ever really ready? But what made us feel as ready as we’ll ever be is just where we are in life right now. We feel like we have a really strong relationship (we’ve been together for 13 years, married for almost 4 and are honestly best friends), feel settled into our careers, own our home, and have traveled a LOT together. Sure, there are definitely still plenty of things on our bucket lists, but we’re so excited to get to do those things with kiddos!
Is Patrick allowed to come to your doctor appointment?
No. 🙁 And it really sucks. We knew getting pregnant during a pandemic that this was likely going to be the case, but I wish he could’ve been there in person for our first ultrasound and to hear the heartbeat. Thankfully, the ultrasound tech let Patrick FaceTime in so he was still able to experience it in some way.
What is your favorite thing about pregnancy so far?
This may sound cheesy… but I feel so dang powerful growing a human! Women are freaking incredible.
We cannot wait to share more of this journey and cannot WAIT to meet our sweet baby later this year!